One of the most painful things in life is to try to change a "voice" I use to a person. When I say "voice," I mean a unique way of addressing a specific person. Usually I use different voices for different people I know. I use a certain voice for my father--more fomal-- while I use another voice for my sister--more casual. When my relationship with a person changes, I often change the voice as well. Sometimes the change is very small. But on certain occasions, I have to make a big change. The changes usally look awkard. It feels strange to say "how are you?" instead of "whatsup?" which I used to use for a person. And sometimes the chnage feels more than awkard. It feels painful, especially when I have to make the change for my once close firend who became estranged now. Then I feel pain. When I finish a letter to him with "sincerely" instead of "your buddy," or signs the letter with my real name instead of my nickname, it hurts me. S.O.S