The original title was meant to be This confrntation of two different cultures... Which I specifically direct to Mary, who is a Chinese - American, and some of the rest hard core Koreans who are against homosexuality. Certainly, Koreans were brought up to think conservatively(really?!!) and this trend is fading anyway... BUT I am not here to vote in favor of homosexuality or say that Mary has wrong perspective about homosexuality. I also have my own opinion on this issue, but that is not so important right now. What I want Mary to understand is that... basicall we were all brought up to value certain things in life... If the American society think that it is a precious thing to be able to express one's true thoughts and feelings in a society, Koreans value(at least the old Koreans) following the trends of their ancestors and carry on the teachings of the old wisemen. To an American kid's perspective of view, this can sound VERY silly indeed! However that kiod does not realise how silly he looks to those so called conservative Koreans. THE ultimate truth about who is absolutely right OR who is absolutely wrong... I think it is up to GOD to judge, if he exists! So, the bottom line is that... everyone has his or her opinion. One's opinion could convince another and let that person follow. BUT, NOBODY should say "Hey, you ARE wrong!" ps: Ms. Mary , although I heard that you are an American student at UIUC, you sound like someone who came from the mainland China not so long ago... :) Not your ideas... but your English!!! No hard feelings... just curious!