Well, why don't you spell it out for him? Just the truth...that you need to know him better, etc. If he cannot take it, do you think he can take other things that may happen in the marriage? After all, there is cultural gap to take into account... BTW, one of my friend, who should be refered as 1.25 Komerican, (translation: he lived in US when he was a kid, and he came back to Korea when he was about 11...) decided to marry after dating a girl for 5 years... When I asked him about the cultural gap, he said that he should learn to live with it... ??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? " To be reborn, or not to reborn, that is the question." - from 'Famlet' by Shakesfinix ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????