Sharon, Having read your story, it brings me a small curiosity.. did you two exchange photographs by any chance in your course of correspondence?? If so, although not seeing each other in person, you have completed the frame-work for 'sun' (not the shining sun, but a type of blind date) with your aunt holding the tie. And if that's the case, things may be much more complicated and serious because Korean men (especially in their late 20s and early 30s) do take these things seriously. Plus, you shouldn't forget how visual (sight-oriented) men are - did you send him a picture of Choi Jin-sil?? It is my "assumption" that your aunt WANTS you and the guy to be together - or she thought you two might be good together - when she introduced him to you in the first place. And you, through your letters and international phone calls, concluded that he appears to be a fine gent and that he may be worth getting to know better. And the fact is that he might feel the same way about you, only with different intensity and intentions. It seems to me that you didn't expect a casual pen pal to so suddenly turn into a potential fiance or even a spouse. Well, now the word of advise: 1. Follow (no..this is too strong of a word).. consider filix's advise. It seemed like a pretty good advise. 2. You can file a complaint to your aunt who started this whole thing. 3. Don't get confused by all my garbage herein.