At first, thanks for choosing the word [ratify]. :-) It was back 6~7 years when I first heard the word [ratification]. What a dumb word I thought at that time. "The Bush administration wants the XXXX-bill to be ratified immidiately by the ..." was what I heard. hmm.. let's get down to the point. I'm one of the naive, awkward, boring and dull people so I must fend him with the intention that [sometimes one must be cautious when being expressive about other's nature.] but, if you think you did it right then you did right. Boring, awkward people are hard to bear with...... even myself(though I'm boring and awkward. forgive me God. :P) But, remember. some people just don't know what they should do when criticized. It's not something about [Boring] or [naivete], but it's about [experience] and [preparedness]. If you really want to surprise someone, you just meet that one and say [ Hey! what kind of person are you ? I won't stand you any more. ] That'd be effective enough. :-) But if that is't what you want, just let that one be prepared. [ Hey! (smiling) I want to tell you something about you. .... (bla bla bla) ] Be prepared is mostly important. If you surprise that one like that, (s)he must be confused and at a loss what to do. (S)he must be thinking next time that [What (s)he will think about me if I do like this ? what (s)he will think about me if I do that ?] And also I must express that when you aren't familiar with criticisms or admonishes(in a word, not scolded many times), you must be frightened by that things. But that's gonna be OK. Life is tough. And He also learned some lessons from your surprise. [Being regarded as a surplus or a naivete.] :-) He WILL learn. (Of course, I learned it already.... with some pain.. ^.* ) You just did what you could do right. teach him more. :-) Let us all learn some hearty lessons from this ephemeral lives. -_- Being born is something we can never do about. But being oneself is something we should do about. - Y. H. T.